*This game plan didn't work out? We've already tried this, this, and this? OK. Time to look into selling the horse.
I don't think it's an unfair plan to have in place for anyone involved.
No one is allowed to say I haven't put in the time or haven't tried to make this work. I've ridden Bobby in a riding horse capacity for the past five years. We've had long spans and short spans of problems, and eventually they get resolved enough that we're able to take one mincing step forward. Sometimes even two steps! This is not the first time selling Bobby has been put on the table.
Through all of it, I've been pretty ambivalent to the role Bobby's played in my life. I love horses. I enjoy riding. I like competing. I like doing well at shows. Bobby has taken me to a lot of firsts in my showing career, and while I appreciate it when he saves my ass over a jump, or steps up to the plate when my confidence is lacking, I find it hard to give him the credit he probably deserves. He's half of the partnership that gets the job done, and yet, to me, he's nothing more than the horse I'm sitting on when it happens.
It was hard for me to make the switch from losing Red who was beyond a doubt my heart horse to working solely with Bobby, and Bobby has always been so much less than Red. I probably have some underlying daily resentment that I ended up stuck with this horse instead of still being able to be with Red Pony. Maybe no other horse will ever be good enough for me.
That's for me to work through though. Bobby is not your horse to sell or to keep. It's not your situation to live with day to day.
Thank you to the people I've exchanged ideas with who have been tactful and supportive, yet willing to have a little back and forth on the situation. I appreciate being able to bounce thoughts off of people who aren't judgmental bitches. (Pretty much all of my blog friends are these people, whether we've talked about this or not. Thanks to all of you for also not being judgmental bitches!)
So that's that. We got two inches of snow last night and are expecting another two today, plus the predicted high is barely supposed to reach double digits, so today is the perfect day to get caught up on what we've been doing, what's worked, what hasn't.
It's positive stuff. It's nothing that erases the plan to reevaluate in the spring or summer and sell if that still seems like the best option, but it's enough to put me in a better mindset going forward.